It’s been quite a week. We left home early last Sunday to drive to Devon to spend time with our 20-year-old son.

Barney is walking the entire coast of Britain alone and has clocked over 1000 miles. 🥾🥾 We’ve committed to visiting him along the route once a month to provide an opportunity for rest and a few home comforts.the-gift-of-space-and-time

He has so many stories to tell of God’s AMAZING provision, and mercy, and grace.

My Long Walk Around Britain

We returned home very late on Tuesday night so that we could attend the funeral of an amazing lady who lost her battle with cancer at the age of 54. Thanking God for a life well lived ❤ 🎶

We hosted 7 visitors in our home, caught up on life, then traveled to Lincoln on Friday to spend time with our daughter and grandchildren, and babysit. 🙂

On Saturday we spent the day celebrating the marriage of two amazing people 🔔

In the midst of all that activity, I’m working to change habits and transform my life! If I didn’t have a plan and routine I would be overwhelmed.

Because I prioritized my main action steps things got done even though life has been hectic. I didn’t try to do EVERYTHING, and I did some things a little later than originally planned, but I gave myself permission to let things be good enough so that I could keep on track while giving people the gift of unhurried time.

I’m looking forward to more time to focus next week 🙂

I was feeling a bit overwhelmed because there are so many things to do and new things take longer because they’re unfamiliar…. but then I remembered that I’m learning lots of new things and creating new habits, and discovering new ways of doing things.

This was a wake-up call because I’ve fallen into a pattern of leaving things unfinished…

The secret of getting things done  is to eliminate fear and procrastination

When we start something and don’t complete it, and when we make resolutions that we don’t keep, we’re forming the habit of failure! learn from failure

And every time we do that, we’re reinforcing the failure habit and the expectation off failure.

So, I’m learning to keep promises to myself no matter what.

The lesson here is,

Whatever it is that you decide to do, go for it – do it as unto God with all your heart

We have more control over things than we think we have. We can train ourselves to become more aware and choose which emotion dominates in the moment.

We CAN control our thoughts and decide how experiences will affect us. We can choose how to respond rather than resorting to your default. When we learn how to do that the long awaited transformation starts to take place.

God made it abundantly clear that it’s time to shed things that are no longer serving me and adopt new ways of living that support me in becoming the woman I was purposed to be before the beginning of time. Life Coach Lynne Lee

Right now I’m getting clear about what that looks like for me and creating new supporting habits to replace ingrained habits that don’t serve me well.

My overriding aim in life is to live out of my spirit, become more aware of God’s presence with me, co-create with God, and inspire and equip other people to do the same.
I have recommitted to regularly spending time developing my relationship with God and to train myself to become more aware of His presence with me.

I am meeting with like-minded, like-hearted, spiritual people who are living out their purpose. We encourage, support and inspire each other to become who we were created to be and do what we are purposed to do.

Currently, if you were to ask me what my purpose is I would say:

“My purpose is to coach, teach, train, inspire, encourage, enable, and empower people to exchange lies for truth, become who they were created to be and do what they were created to do.”

But I know its much more than that… more to come…

Don’t ever underestimate the positive effect of kind words. Kind words can transform a situation.  Even a small compliment can make someone’s day. 

‘Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around …’  Leo Buscaglia

‘Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.’  Blaise Pascal

‘Wise sayings often fall on barren ground; but a kind word is never thrown away’ Arthur Helps

Kind words, kind looks, kind acts and warm handshakes, these are means of grace when men in trouble are fighting their unseen battles.’  John Hall

‘Kind words produce their own image in men’s souls; and a beautiful image it is. They soothe and quiet and comfort the hearer. They shame him out of his sour, morose, unkind feelings. We have not yet begun to use kind words in such abundance as they ought to be used.’ Blaise Pascal ‘

Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust and hostility to evaporate.’ Albert Schweitzer

‘The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love.’  William Wordsworth

‘You can never do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late.’  Ralph Waldo Emerson

‘Let me do all the good I can, to all the people I can, as often as I can, for I shall not pass this way again.’ John Wesley

Make someone’s day. Go out of your way to say something kind to a friend or colleague. Note their response and how good it makes you feel. Kindness is wisdom in action. It costs very little and makes such a difference.
And remember to be speak kind words to yourself too!

One of the first steps to self confidence is to start being kind to yourself by becoming your own best friend and cheerleader.

Make a start by acknowledging your abilities and talents. Take stock of all of your abilities and talents. Include the ‘little things’, they count! Everybody is good at something, once you start thinking about it you will realise that you have many talents. Don’t skip this exercise, it really will encourage you.

Spend time thinking about all the things you do well and the things that have gone well in your life. Look for things that make you feel good about yourself and what you do.

Collect photos of past achievements, make a note of exams that you’ve passed, things that you’ve written, memories of positive things that have been spoken about you … whatever springs to mind.

Create a scrapbook or journal and add to it as you progress along your journey of transformation. Concentrate on things that you achieve, this will give you confidence to continue moving out of your comfort zone.

To build self confidence you need to do things that will help you gain confidence.

Stop under estimating yourself and do stop comparing yourself to other people. Stop  setting yourself up to fail by expecting  perfection, things are seldom perfect yet they are often ‘good enough’.

Everybody makes mistakes – let yourself off the hook. Don’t dwell on past mistakes. Concentrate on the positive things that you’ve done and accomplished and take  inspiration from them.

Focus on what you’re capable of and remember to give yourself credit for your efforts even when things don’t turn out quite as expected. Learn from your mistakes – ask yourself what you could do differently next time.

Watch your self talk. That’s the little inner voice that says, ‘I can’t do this’, ‘I made a mess of that again’ … and stop it in its tracks.

It’s time to shut you inner critic up. Remember, you’re going to be your own best friend, friends encourage and build one another up. So, the next time your negative critic starts up, silence it.

Replace the negatives with positives. ‘I can do this, I just need a bit of help.’ or ‘I did much better this time, I’m making progress.”‘

Decide to only allow your inner voice to offer constructive comments, cut off the negatives as soon as they begin to surface.

Monitor your self talk for a week. This is the first step in turning your self talk into an ally. Listen to what your inner voice is saying.

  • What kind of things have you been telling yourself?
  • Are they helpful?
  • Would you speak that way to a friend or a young child?

If not, change what you say to yourself. Rephrase the negative comments and turn them into encouraging words.

You develop self-confidence by feeling good about yourself and your achievements, not by beating yourself up. Try giving yourself gentle advice and encouragement. Try telling yourself that yes, you could have handled the situation better but it’s time to move on, learn from your mistake and think about how you can do better next time.

Remember to record your achievements and positve events in your scrapbook or journal. When you need a boost, look at them and remind yourself of your successes. In time, you’ll have more faith in your abilities and more confidence to try new things.

Decide what you will do, then create a plan and take the first steps today.